Couple goals

We've been empty nesters for nigh on six years now, and the time is ours to spend how we choose. Of course we have to fill up a lot of the time with work, but after that is ours. We spend a LOT of time together since both of us work at home (me all of the time, Jim most of the time. On average he goes to the office downtown once a week). We don't really need to carve out time to be together; instead we have our schedule.

Monday night is game and treat night OR walk at a local park and treat night (depending on the weather)

Wednesday we grocery shop

Friday is take out or eat out

Neighborhood walks in mornings and evenings

We generally watch TV for an hour or two before bed. Sometimes I get caught up in sewing or other crafts and Jim watches TV while I putter. 

Larger goals include travel mostly as our together time. We finished our state park passport club, but we joined the state park hiking club, so that will be a bucket list goal we are going to be working on. It will take us longer than the passport club did because we have to hike a specific trail in each of the hiking parks, and some of the trails are 5-7 miles long.

We have a trip to London planned this fall, with Katie, Christian and their kids, and Hayley is joining us. It won't be couple together time, but it falls under the family together time. I will enjoy seeing the grandkids experience a new place, and I look forward to many trip conversations with my wee little girls.

Then in the early winter of next year, we are planning our first cruise. Our goal for the cruise is to RELAX. There will be some sightseeing and visiting ports, but mostly we just want to sit around on the ship deck or on our balcony and read and eat. 

We don't really have couple goals. Mostly we have relationship goals and even then they aren't really spelled out. Mostly I try to treat him with kindness and do things that will make him feel like I'm glad to have him around (allllllllllllll the time because again, we both work at home). 

We don't usually get spontaneous, but recently, with the solar storm that brought the northern lights to our area, Jim suggested (at 11:30 PM AFTER we had gone to bed) that we go for a drive to chase the lights. I am so glad he suggested it and that we went on an unplanned local trip. The weather was pretty cold, but it was worth it to be outside seeing nature's laser show. We weren't sure at first if what we were seeing was the borealis, but the camera proved it. How is this a couple goal? Jim knew that I had always wanted to see the lights, he knew they were supposed to be vivid that night, and he made the suggestion, even though we might be cold and tired. We had so much fun! I felt like a teenager staying up until 3 AM. The couple goal is "do fun things together!" I've seen people that I know suffer the disintegration of a relationship because they don't make time for the fun and frivolous things. Jim knows I like a little adventure now and then.